Episode 4 - Unmasked : Domestic and Family Violence, how we can make changes

Welcome to "Stronger Together", a transformative podcast experience that delves deep into the fabric of community wellbeing and individual resilience. Hosted by Tanya O'Shea, Managing Director of IMPACT with a bachelor's degree in psychology, and Kate Rumballe, IMPACT's Communications Officer with over two decades of experience as a journalist and communications professional.

This series is a lifeline for those in need.

In this gripping episode, we tackle the often taboo and deeply unsettling topic of  Domestic and Family Violence. We're joined by Emily, a courageous survivor willing to share her harrowing journey from the clutches of abuse to the path of recovery. Her story is a stark reminder that domestic violence doesn't discriminate; it could be happening right next door.

Emily's narrative begins seven years ago when she met a man who seemed like the epitome of charm and kindness. However, the facade soon crumbled, revealing a cycle of coercive control and escalating violence that culminated in life-threatening situations. Emily's story is not just a tale of survival but also a call to action. With alarming statistics indicating that last year alone, 57 women lost their lives to domestic violence, and this year, the count has already reached 35, the episode underscores the urgent need for community intervention and systemic change.

But what about the bystanders? This episode also addresses the crucial role that friends, family, and even strangers can play in breaking the cycle of abuse. Domestic violence is not just a private issue; it's a community crisis that requires collective action. Bystanders have the power to intervene, offer support, and even save lives. Whether it's noticing the signs, offering a listening ear, or taking steps to ensure someone's safety, your actions could make a world of difference.

This episode is an eye-opener. We discuss the grim statistics, the laws around coercive control, and the steps that each one of us can take to make a difference. We also provide resources for immediate support, making it a comprehensive guide for anyone affected by or working in the field of domestic violence.

Do you need support?

Local Services

• IMPACT Community Services – Our Intensive Family Support Service offers an essential front-line service with tailored support for families facing multiple or complex needs, including families living with Domestic and Family Violence. The service covers the Bundaberg and Fraser Coast regions. For more information call us on (07)4153 4233 or go to https://impact.org.au/support-and-wellbeing/family-individual-support/family-parenting-support/intensive-family-support-ifs/
• EDON Place offers a range of specialist domestic and family violence support services in Bundaberg, Childers, Gin Gin, Monto, Gayndah and Eidsvold, including short term crisis accommodation to support women and children escaping family and domestic violence. Call (07) 4153 6820 or visit www.edonplace.org.au

Other assistance

• DV Connect helps Queenslanders to find pathways to safety, away from domestic, family and sexual violence, providing emergency transport and accommodation to your entire family, including pets. www.dvconnect.org or call 1800 811 811.
• 1800respect.org.au The 1800RESPECT website offers comprehensive information on domestic and family violence, emphasising that it can occur to anyone, irrespective of background or type of relationship. The site outlines various forms of abuse, including psychological, social, and physical, and discusses the concept of coercive control as an underlying dynamic. It provides resources and support options for those affected.

Financial Assistance

• Escaping Violence Payment (EVP) is administered by Uniting Care – https://www.unitingcareqld.com.au/services-and-support/family-support/domestic-and-family-violence/escaping-violence-payment or call 1800 829 703
• No Interest Loans Scheme (NILS) offers loans between $300 and $1500 to people on low incomes and is provided to pay for essential goods and services. https://goodshep.org.au/services/nils/
• Victim Assist Queensland – Helps Victims recover from acts of violence that happen in Queensland. https://www.qld.gov.au/law/crime-and-police/victims-and-witnesses-of-crime/victim-financial-assistance
• CommBank has a specialist team to assist victims of domestic and family violence to safely manage your finances. CommBank’s Next Chapter Team can be contacted on 1800 22 387 from 8am-6pm Monday to Friday (Sydney time), excluding public holidays. If it is difficult to chat, CommBank customers can contact the Next Chapter team through their online chat (Ceba) in the CommBank app. The Next Chapter team can also refer CommBank customers on for specialist support if you’re experiencing financial hardship due to domestic violence.
• Services Australia – Offers a range of services including financial assistance, dedicated family and domestic violence services, emergency accommodation and long-term housing support, counselling and health services. For more information, including information about documentation you may need to provide, go to https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/how-we-can-help-you-with-family-and-domestic-violence-concerns?context=60033

Emergency Contact Numbers

• DV Connect – 1800 811 811
• National Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault Helpline (24 hours): 1800 737 732 (1800 Respect)
• Lifeline: 131 114
• Kids helpline: 1800 55 1800

If you are concerned for the immediate safety of yourself or someone else, please call 000 for emergency assistance.

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